Creating a Safe Place to Talk About Dangerous Things

The most important thing to keep in mind as parents talk with their teens about pornography is that together they can find solutions to heal.

Jeffrey J. Ford
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Talking about sex and pornography has quickly become a top priority for parents and their children, and with research indicating that adolescents today appear to be using pornography much more than any other age group (Arnett, 2006), silence is not golden. Parents need to know how to talk about pornography, and how to recognize signs that their child may be already struggling with pornography.

 

In a study conducted at BYU, Jason Carroll (2008) and others found that 9 out of 10 boys and one-third of girls use pornography. Research like this can be sobering and overwhelming for parents who are trying to raise their kids today. Talking about pornography and sex is particularly difficult for parents who didn’t have that type of talk with their parents when they were kids.

 

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Creating a Safe Place to Talk About Dangerous Things

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Recognize

Creating a Safe Environment to Discuss Dangerous Things

Here are some tips to help parents create a safe atmosphere for their children to talk about dangerous things:

  1. Create Room for Mistakes
    Inviting your children to come to you whenever they are struggling decreases the likelihood they will go underground with their addiction.
  2. Stay Calm
    Teenagers are attuned to their parents’ non-verbal cues and will avoid talking about things or asking questions if they sense that Mom or Dad is anxious or upset.
  3. Avoid Offering False Forgiveness
    Forgiveness can occur only when everything that was done has been disclosed and when parents and children have had time to sort out how they feel about it.