Overcoming an Addiction

Help and Support for Parents

How Parents Can Help Their Children Overcome an Addiction to Pornography

Parents can be a great help to a son or daughter involved with pornography. The following steps might assist you to best help your child.

  1. Express Your Love
    Express your love and your desire for your child to have a happy, successful life and share your concern that involvement in pornography can jeopardize your child's future happiness and well-being, causing spiritual death and eternal disappointment.
  2. Teach
    Teach your child how pornography distorts sexuality, causes users to view others as sexual objects, leads to various forms of immorality, and addicts its users.
  3. Follow Up
    Once the problem has been acknowledged, keep the lines of communication open. Sexual transgressions thrive in secrecy, but are less likely to recur when talked about in a sensitive, caring way.
  4. Respond Calmly
    Avoid responding with shock and anger. Instead, be genuinely concerned and talk with your child in a respectful way.
  5. Learn
    Ask how the problem got started, how long it has been going on, and how extensively the child is involved with pornography.
  6. Involve Leaders
    Encourage your child to talk with the bishop and to get professional help if needed.
  7. Admonish Tenderly
    Rather than preaching, threatening, or condemning, appeal to your child's better judgment. Admonish him or her "with all the feeling of a tender parent" to listen to your counsel (see 1 Nephi 8:37).
  8. Communicate
    Find out how the child feels about his or her involvement and whether he or she plans to continue that involvement.
  9. Help
    Provide help and encouragement as the child strives to overcome the problem.

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